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	Rebuttal to Dr. Ken Matto "Is masturbation a sin? -- Masturbation is clearly NOT a sin, but a wonderful gift from God for all to enjoy. taken from http://www.scionofzion.com/masturbation.htm IS MASTURBATION SIN? by Dr. Ken Matto >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>>In the sex saturated society we live in, it is obvious that sexual tension and lust is going to run at an all time high. *****Inkaboutit reply***If you look in the Bible there is also a lot more of sexual and nudity activity. In the Bible men had many wives and concubines and had sex with handmaids and servants. In many way our society is very sexually repressive with all the Puritans sex law on the law books. Israel walked around in public view for 3 years. Today a person would be put in jail. Prophets strip nude when they were prophesying. Today they would be put in jail. In the Bible day they worked, play sport, bath in lake, all in the nude, today they would go to jail. >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> There are those who will take the route of paying a member of the opposite sex (both male or females do it) to "relieve" their sexual lust. ***Inkaboutit reply***Jesus choose to hang around prostitutes and sinners and tax collectors, an avoided the holier then thou religious leaders of the day. Men had many ways in the Bible to meet their sexual needs. Look at what was NOT considered to be adultery. A man was NOT considered an adulterer if he engaged in sexual relations with... Sex with Mutual consent of spouse.... Also when letting another man have sex with his wives and concubines. http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/adultdefine.html Bible Sexuality Summary in proper Context. What do many Churches leave out? The Bible is not against sex. http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/sum.html Women and sex. Christian non-traditional view of women role as well as non-traditional view of sexuality. Showing Affection, sexuality, Lesbianism, Sex in Heaven, Debunking a Common Myth, Marriage, Divorce Christianity and (God made)-Pro-Sexuality. Where did the Christian view of sexuality come from? Man made or God made?? http://www.thefamily.org/dossier/books/book5/main.htm This is Part of: answering-christianity.com/x_rated.htm Where a muslin is critical of the Bible because it is so sexy. Song of Solomon a sexy book in the Bible. http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/sos.html What is the definition of fornication? http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/fornication.html >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> Of course if this person is a Christian and for fear of getting caught, they will either go far away from the home vicinity or to go behind closed doors and engage in masturbation. ***Inkaboutit reply***No one wants or needs condemnation of uninformed holier then thou Pharisees and others anti-masturbation type who disagree with them. '' Behind closed doors'' does he have sex with his wife out in the sidewalk? Does that mean that it is a sin to have sex in private? Someone may call the police and put him in jail for having sex in public. The Hidden Effects of Sexual Guilt. Many clergymen now admit that the church's attitude toward sex over the years has not only be out of line with scriptural intent, but it has proven harmful. http://www.theinternetcollege.com/sing7.htm >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> this act is done by both males and females which means this is not a one sided issue. It is probably more prevalent among males since a male's arousal time is much faster. ***Inkaboutit reply***Male have any external penis and the normal male has 5 hard on erection daily and just rubbing against object can be enjoyable and arousal. More and more women today are also overcome the false teaching about masturbation and many more are enjoying masturbating a lot. Some women love to masturbate. Personal true story from Betty. http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/bettydodson.html >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> This is such a secret subject because no one would ever admit they are doing it, whether saved or unsaved. ***Inkaboutit reply*** No one wants or needs condemnation of uninformed holier then thou Pharisees and others anti-masturbation type who disagree with them. Many surveys show 94% of male admit to doing masturbation. Many web sites show people masturbating and greatly enjoying it, with no man made shame or guilt. The shame and guilt is man made and man taught. >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> The question we must address is not whether the act is happening, but is this act sin? I do not want to address this subject in the confines of marriage since the Bible teaches that the marriage bed is undefiled. I want to broach this subject for the benefit of singles. Single women and men that are not sexually sinning with another will not have an outlet to relieve sexual tension. ***Inkaboutit reply***God does not only meet married people's need and leave out single people. Does he think 11 and 12 year old should get married to get there sexual needs meant? God meets sexual needs of both single and married. Both married and single masturbate. Human masturbate starting at a very young age and we are taught by others to be ashamed and man made guilty. God gives us all a sex drive and if you don't solve your sexual needs with a partner then you can go solo. Lev 15:16-19 includes both married and single people and clearly describes wet dreams and masturbations, and partner sex and this would naturally include sexual lust and sexual fantasies that normally and naturally goes along with the action. All of it is clearly NOT a sin; there is NO requirement of any sin offering of any kind, just a wash up with water. If God did not want singles to have a sex drive, then God would have give you "puberty'' on the day you get married and only to people who get married and not to all people around 12 years old. God does not put a strong sex drive inside you and then tell you not to have a sexual thought or feelings. God did not give any anti-sex rules to Adam and Eve. But instead he had them running around 100% nude and commands them to cleave together or get together and have lots of sex. God is not anti-sex, he invented it. Is Masturbation a sin? Clearly NOT!!! It is clearly not a sin in the Bible!! http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/masturbationnotsinlev1516.html Major research on masturbation, the Bible, Christianity, sexuality, to clearly show that masturbation is a wonderful gift from God for us to enjoy. God designed every detail for us to enjoy. http://christianmasturbation.homestead.com/index.html >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> The first thing we must ask ourselves is, how do we become sexually excited when there is no marriage partner on the scene. The answer is obvious for 2 reasons: 1. Sight 2. Mind First is sight. Every place we look we see sex. I can't even go into a convenience store to buy milk here in NJ without being bombarded with hard core pornography, both magazines and movies, right in visible sight. You try to turn away and then you spot the scandal sheets with scantily clad women or men on the front. ***Inkaboutit reply***God designed every detail of our sexuality and said it was very good. The devil did not. God designed the animal sexuality also and he is not hung up with animal or human sexuality. God is the one who made sex so much fun and enjoyable. If you think sex, or sexual lust or sexual fantasies are a sin and remover them 100% then Gods sexual design would not even work at all. >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> I was standing in line at a local store to pay for my coffee and there was a woman in front of me. Her eyes were fixed on the rack of condoms. What do you think was going through her mind at that time? ***Inkaboutit reply***What is he against birth control and safe sex? And she could be married or single. >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> Second is mind, which dovetails sight. When we see things that trigger our sexual thoughts, we could possibly apply those pictures or items to someone we know in the church. We may see someone we like (applies to both male and female) and then create a sexual scenario in our mind with what we saw and then if we are unmarried, we may put ourselves into extreme sexual excitement (sin) and have no release. So what is the next step for release without a partner, it is masturbation. ***Inkaboutit reply*** God designed every detail of our sexuality and said it was very good. The devil did not. God designed the animal sexuality also and he is not hung up with animal or human sexuality. God is the one who made sex so much fun and enjoyable. If you think sex, or sexual lust or sexual fantasies are a sin and remover them 100% then Gods sexual design would not even work at all. >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> Where do we get the idea that no one sees us when we are alone? The Bible states the following: ***Inkaboutit reply***Masturbation is not a sin, but a gift from God to enjoy. With same honor and respect as sex in marriage. Does God see married people have sex play? (1 Pet 3:12 KJV) For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil. ***Inkaboutit reply*** Masturbation is not a sin, or evil, but a gift from God to enjoy. (Heb 4:13 KJV) Neither is there any creature that is not manifest in his sight: but all things are naked and opened unto the eyes of him with whom we have to do. ***Inkaboutit reply***God made Adam and Eve 100% nude. (Psa 90:8 KJV) Thou hast set our iniquities before thee, our secret sins in the light of thy countenance. ***Inkaboutit reply***Just because some one goes to the toilet, masturbate, have sex with spouse all in private doe not mean then are sins. Not of these are sins. >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> I believe these 4 verses give us enough information to let us know that none of us, whether believer or unbeliever, can hide our sins from God. The only difference, is that the sins of the believer have been removed and atoned for, while those of the unbeliever are not. ***Inkaboutit reply*** Masturbation is not a sin, or evil, but a gift from God to enjoy. >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> Let us attend to the question of whether masturbation is sin. I have heard a radio Bible Teacher say many times, "It is not the act itself that is wrong, it is what is going on in the mind." He bases this on (Mat 5:28 KJV) But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. The key word here is "lust." It is definitely possible to look at a pretty woman or handsome man and not lust. We must be honest and realistic that lust does trigger sexual desire. ***Inkaboutit reply*** Major contradiction-- verse used by anti-nudist people. Matt. 5:28 is totally misunderstood and taken out of context. "look at a women with lust...adultery" http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/Lustmt528.html Masturbation positive talk: many Christian people, Ministers, College Professors, Bible teachers, saying masturbation is not a sin and is very healthy for you. http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/highlight2.html >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> Sexual lust is definitely a sin and the catalyst for masturbating. But is the actual act itself, apart from lusting in the mind a sin? ***Inkaboutit reply*** God designed every detail of our sexuality and said it was very good. The devil did not. God designed the animal sexuality also and he is not hung up with animal or human sexuality. God is the one who made sex so much fun and enjoyable. If you think sex, or sexual lust or sexual fantasies are a sin and remover them 100% then Gods sexual design would not even work at all. Lev 15:16 would also have included sexual lust and sexual fantasies and NO sin offering was required. Not a sin. >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> I believe the answer to that is yes. Masturbation is an aberrant form of sexual intercourse which is to be enjoyed by a married couple only. ***Inkaboutit reply***Masturbation is loving yourself thinking of love some one else. Fulfilling the law of love. Love God, love other as you love yourself. God God sexual gift, love you sexuality thinking of loving another. The law of love. >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> There is nothing in the Bible, which gives approbation to celibate sex. Sex is to be enjoyed in the boundaries of marriage alone and the Bible gives no other way to have it. ***Inkaboutit reply***There is nothing in the Bible about driving a car or flying a plane and many other things. Lev 15: 16-19 clearly describes wet dreams, masturbation, and sex with a partner. >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> WHY IS IT A SIN? ***Inkaboutit reply*** Masturbation is a gift of God. Sex is a gift of God to us. Sexual lust is not evil lust; it is God designed human nature. Evil lust is hurtful and harmful to humans. Masturbation is healthy. Masturbation is good. Masturbation is God designed. Masturbation is good for you. Masturbation is for everyone to enjoy. Is Masturbation a sin? Clearly NOT!!! It is clearly not a sin in the Bible!! http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/masturbationnotsinlev1516.html >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> (Rom 6:16 KJV) Know ye not, that to whom ye yield yourselves servants to obey, his servants ye are to whom ye obey; whether of sin unto death, or of obedience unto righteousness? The vicious and deceiving cycle is four-fold: ***Inkaboutit reply***Has nothing to do with masturbation. Compare to Lev 15:16 clearly talks about masturbation. >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> A. It begins with sexual thought. This is the place to abort the idea, as soon as it enters the mind. B. Then the act. C. Then the guilt. D. Then the repentance. ***Inkaboutit reply***Guilt of masturbation is man made guilt man taught. NOT a sin but a gift from God for all to enjoy. >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> Then the cycle repeats itself every time a person allows themselves to become sexually excited. (James 1:14-15 KJV) But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. {15} Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death. ***Inkaboutit reply***Masturbation has 50 health benefits and leads to get health. The lack of masturbation or sex can cause blockage that can cause cancer and death. Sex makes you younger - it's true! http://www.libchrist.com/sexed/sexmakeyounger.html http://www.theherald.co.uk/news/archive/10-10-19100-22-42-31.html Can Good Sex Keep You Young? Pop docs say there's a connection between sexual activity, looking younger, and living longer. Does frequent sex contribute to good health, or does good health make frequent sex possible? By Jeffrey Blum , PhD http://www.homestead.com/inkaboutit/younger.html or http://my.webmd.com/content/article/1687.50701 Solo Sex and the Bible. Wonderful benefits and a Gift from God.(masturbation) (Many links) http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/solo.html Advantages of MASTURBATION By Ph.D Albert Ellis (50 Advantages) 5 pages of Sexual Advantages, Emotional Advantages, Healthful Advantages, Relational Advantages, and others. http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/mmadvantages50.html Modern Sex Research Says This About MASTURBATION 23 Benefits By Manfred F. Martino a College Professor. http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/mmadvantages23.html Why is MASTURBATION so Popular. Page 14 - 15 reasons. http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/mapopular.html The Healing Power of Sex. Celibacy can be hazardous to your health. http://www.libchrist.com/sexed/healing.html Masturbation is required http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/mmrequired.html Solo Ejaculations Maintain Healthy Prostate For Men http://www.proaxis.com/~solo/prost.htm MASTURBATION has a lot Going for it http://www.proaxis.com/~solo/120798d.htm Compares some of the characteristics of sin and of masturbation. Is MASTURBATION a sin? Or a gift from God. Compare and find your own conclusion. http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/macompare.html Is Masturbation Healthy? http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/maryhealthy.html >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> 2. It is a fantasy based sin ***Inkaboutit reply*** God designed every detail of our sexuality and said it was very good. The devil did not. God designed the animal sexuality also and he is not hung up with animal or human sexuality. God is the one who made sex so much fun and enjoyable. If you think sex, or sexual lust or sexual fantasies are a sin and remover them 100% then Gods sexual design would not even work at all. Lev 15:16 would also have included sexual lust and sexual fantasies and NO sin offering was required. Not a sin. >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> This sin requires a subject based on fantasy and it roots right back to the lust problem we spoke about already. (Mat 5:28 KJV) But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. ***Inkaboutit reply*** Major contradiction-- verse used by anti-nudist people. Matt. 5:28 is totally misunderstood and taken out of context. "look at a women with lust...adultery" http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/Lustmt528.html A man was NOT considered an adulterer if he engaged in sexual relations with....... Sex with Mutual consent of spouse.... Also when letting another man have sex with his wives and concubines. http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/adultdefine.html (Gen 2:22-24 KJV) And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. {23} And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. {24} Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. ***Inkaboutit reply***God encourages 100% nude sex outdoors in the open and not hiding behind closed doors in hiding. Another dilemma which arises out of creating our "perfect" sex partner is, if you wind up marrying that person and every thing you fantasized about them doing or you doing with them does not come to pass, it may cause a rift in the marriage. ***Inkaboutit reply***Man made not in the Bible. Many in the Bible had many wives and concubines and sex with many people and not condemned by God. >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> 4. We defile our brothers or sisters in our mind by viewing them as sex objects for our pleasure. ***Inkaboutit reply*** Masturbation is loving yourself thinking of love some one else. Fulfilling the law of love. Love God, love other as you love yourself. God God sexual gift, love you sexuality thinking of loving another. The law of love. (2 Tim 3:8 KJV) Now as Jannes and Jambres withstood Moses, so do these also resist the truth: men of corrupt minds, reprobate concerning the faith. ***Inkaboutit reply***Masturbation is a gift from God to all to enjoy. NOT corrupt and NOT reprobate, no more then sex play with your partner. Take a look at some very sexy verses from the Song of Song. Song of Songs is a very sexy and lusty book in the Bible which most preaches avoid or if they read it they change it all around to try to make it mean something else. http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/sos.html >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> 5. It is Idolatry ***Inkaboutit reply***No more idolatry then meet any other human needs, or going to the toilet to get release. >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> (1 John 5:21 KJV) Little children, keep yourselves from idols. Amen. ***Inkaboutit reply***Has nothing to do with masturbation or sex. Taken out of context. >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> (1 Cor 6:18 KJV) Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. ***Inkaboutit reply***Fornication is not masturbation. Misused Bible verse. What is the definition of fornication? http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/fornication.html >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> It is idolatry because while you are engaging in this act is Christ on the throne of your life or are you thinking biblical thoughts? You are in rebellion during this time and that is a fact you cannot deny. ***Inkaboutit reply*** No more idolatry then meet any other human needs, or going to the toilet to get release. >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> It is nothing more or less than mental fornication. We may believe we are having sex without consequences but any time we break one of God's laws, whether spiritual or natural, trouble is at the door. ***Inkaboutit reply*** Fornication is not masturbation. Misused Bible verse. What is the definition of fornication? http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/fornication.html >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> HOW DO YOU BREAK FREE? Suppose you are caught up in this sin, how do you break free? 1. Realize it is sin and not sickness. ***Inkaboutit reply***Not a sin and has shown nothing that say that it is a sin. Man made assumption and man made guilt trip. Masturbation has 50 health benefits and leads to great health. The lack of masturbation or sex can cause blockage that can cause cancer and death. >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> (1 Cor 6:9 KJV) Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, ***Inkaboutit reply***Masturbation is not listed at all. Nothing to do with masturbation at all. Misused verse. >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> 2. A preprogrammed mind may be reprogrammed: ***Inkaboutit reply***Correct your faulty thinking. Masturbation is a wonderful gift from God for all to enjoy. >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> YOU MUST CUT OFF THE THINGS WHICH ARE TRIGGERING YOUR SEXUAL LUSTS. YOU NEED RADICAL AMPUTATION OF THESE THINGS. ***Inkaboutit reply***I heard this true story while at Bible College. One of the student, who had no visible sin in his life, follow Matthew 5:28-30 if your hand offends thee, cut it off went over to and island in the river and with an ax cut off his hand. As a result he bleed to death. The only thing anyone one could think of was his guilt over masturbation. He was a student preparing to be a Christian Pastor. So anti-masturbation kills a Christian and his potential of becoming a pastor. Matt. 5:28 is totally misunderstood and taken out of context. "look at a women with lust...adultery" http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/Lustmt528.html From forums I have read Christian Pastors in the ministry quitting their ministry just because they could not stop masturbation so they resigned from being a Pastor.** Part of: http://www.proaxis.com/~solo/hustl.htm Sin & Death in Mormon Country: A Latter-day Tragedy By Mark A. Taylor* On March 2, 1982, Kip Eliason, age 16, distraught and filled with self-hate over his inability to stop masturbating, committed suicide. Before asphyxiating himself, Kip left his father a note: "Dear Dad, "I love you more than what words can say. If it were possible, I would stay alive for only you, for I really only have you. But it isn't possible. I must first love myself, and I do not. The strange feeling of darkness and self-hate overpowers all my defenses. I must unfortunately yield to it. This turbulent feeling is only for a few to truly understand. I feel that you do not comprehend the immense feeling of serf-hatred I have. This is the only way I feel that I can relieve myself of these feelings now. Carry on with your life and be happy. I love you more than words can say. "--Your son, Kip Kip Eliason's five-year struggle to overcome masturbation started at age 11 when his grandmother persuaded him to join the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. These are only a few samples of killing people with the anti-masturbation teaching. There are many others that no one ever hears of or never get on the front page of the newspaper. Anti-masturbation teaching does great harm to Children as James Dobson points out. Part of: http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/Dobson.html Part of: http://www.users.bigpond.com/b-u-a/masturba.htm "I don't believe a loving God would put a raging fire in an immature kid and then damn him for doing what he can't help doing"Dr James Dobson "Focus on the Family"(5) Surveys have consistently shown that more than 95% of males engage in masturbation, particularly during adolescence. (Some say the remainder are lying!) Dr Dobson of "Focus on the Family" notes that there is absolutely no controversy on these figures from any source! Dr James Dobson from "Focus on the Family" writes: "It is my opinion that masturbation is not much of an issue with God. It is a normal part of adolescence which involves no one else. It does not cause disease. It does not produce babies, and Jesus did not mention it in the Bible. I'm not telling you to masturbate, and I hope you won't feel the need for it. But if you do, it is my opinion that you should not struggle with guilt over it. Why do I tell you this? Because I deal with so many Christian young people who are torn apart with guilt over masturbation; they want to stop and just can't. I would like to help you avoid that agony." (5) Dr James Dobson in his video "Peer Pressure and Sexuality" explains that over time, the hormonal pressure inside a boy can increase to the point where even a girl simply walking into the room can trigger off an irreversible chain of events in his mind. The desire for sexual expression becomes so strong that he invariably masturbates resulting in the hormonal pressure then dropping again. Over time, the sexual pressure builds again and the boy will feel compelled to express the sexual pressure in his body again no matter how strong his determination was to 'never do it again'. (paraphrased from the video) The best advice seems to be that if a boy finds the need to masturbate, then to accept it as a normal part of his being. Dr. James Dobson says that boys from Christian / church backgrounds often have additional problems with masturbation. Since boys from these backgrounds are taught that there is an after-life and they will be held accountable for their life here on earth, many become plagued with unrelenting guilt over masturbation. He goes on to say that many boys (including Christians) find masturbation absolutely uncontrollable. The boy feels he has sinned and asks God to forgive him and promises not to do it again. Sooner or later though, the accumulating hormonal pressure becomes all encompassing and he will find he is unable to keep his promise to God. What does a boy say to God on the 300th time he has failed to live up to his promise to stop? This boy is in incredible pain. He feels bad about himself and "those" thoughts and guilt that don't stop even when he is church! The pain becomes so great that we lose the young man to the church and to God because he simply has to escape from it. Dr Dobson summarizes with the statement: "Masturbation is all encompassing!" Boys and parents need to understand that masturbation (in Dr. Dobson's words) "is a inevitable developmental stage - it is going to happen!" He concludes with the statement: "If it happens to you, I wouldn't worry too much about it because I don't think it has much to do with your relationship to God" Part of: http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/ProEmail.html Positive Feedback emails from the reader of this web site. ( Names and email addresses removed).Will update this web site when I receive new emails. From: J Date: Mon, 14 Feb 2000 01:58:41 EST I find this page refreshing. I used to be so against masturbation, I spent so many years stressing over this issue feeling so much guilt and shame. I used to be so obsessed with this issue, I prayed, fasted, did cold showers and anything else I could think of to break free. I would have victory for a while but always seemed to end up falling at some point. I actually did go 15 months in 1994-95 without masturbating, but eventually fell. The first 2 to 3 months was hell, then it got easy to go without. I could not figure out a way to stop for life and I had been struggling with this issue for 15 years by that time. I changed my opinion about a year ago. I just started to realize that it was so stupid to obsess over this issue. I honestly feel that God does understand and that it is an acceptable form of release. Part of: http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/SoloWomen.html Personal Stories about What Christian Women think about Masturbation. #1 ...I am a 22 year old female that has been masturbating for quite a while now. I started when I was 12 years. I have been a born again Christian since the summer of 1992. After I became a Christian I started to feel deeply ashamed. The shame was so intense that I never told anyone about my behavior. But I continued to do it. I was afraid to tell my female Christians. Not because I didn't think I could trust them, but because I was afraid of how they would react. So I kept silent. ...A couple of days ago, I was talking with a close friend of mine. She's married and a very strong Christian. She is also not afraid to confront me when I need it. So I wanted to hear her opinion on the topic of masturbation. I asked her point blank if she thought masturbation is a sin. Much to my shock and amazement she told me that she didn't think it was. I was speechless. So I quested her about it.... I truly believe that in my situation I am not sinning when I masturbate. Here are some reasons why I say that.... ...The friend I mentioned earlier is married and she admits that she also masturbates. She has not denied her husband sexually in any way.... # 2 After reading the many posts and responses on this page I'm amazed at some of the narrow mindedness of some people. First off, Is it better that a single person mb to relieve sexual tension or to go out and do the actual sin of having sex outside of the boundaries of marriage?? I was recently a youth/college worker within my church and I've seen youth struggle with their sexuality, as I have too as a single person. God gave us a sex drive for a reason. He meant for us to enjoy sex to the fullest extent with the person we marry. But for some of us, we choose to pursue other areas of our life before we are ready to settle down and get married. And for others, we're just to young to get married...besides..why get married just so you can have sex, isn't that an even greater sin in itself? ...As far as I'm concerned, it is much better to mb then to go out and have sex. There is no scripture or even a hint in any passage in the Bible...where is the sin?... People in the church spend far too much time trying to remove our God-given sexuality and making us feel guilty for things that aren't wrong.... You can argue about "our body the temple" and "defiling the marriage bed" but that does not prove that it is wrong.... ...Masturbation is a way to stop us from actually defiling the marriage bed and I would much rather mb then to sin against God and my future husband by having sex outside of the marriage vows.... #3 J... I am a 31 year old woman and I have masturbated since I was about 6 years old. There was a time in junior high when I was masturbating 3-4 times a day.... I came from a very strong Christian home. I told my generally loving parents about this when I was 13 years old and my father told me that I was a nymphomaniac and basically made me feel disgusting. So, after when I was 16 I began experimenting sexually because I figured that my father was right and that I would have no way of controlling myself.... Well, after a few years of unhappiness, I read a book by James Dobson which had some very understanding comments about masturbation. It totally changed me and helped me to realize that masturbation wasn't the sin,... Part of: http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/SoloWomen2.html More Personal Stories about What Christian Women think about Masturbation. What if your spouse physically can't due to permanent injury or some such? Does this mean that the still able should never again attain "release"? If that is where God puts him, huh? What about reading too much into the bible or over-interpreting. If God had wanted to forbid this act completely wouldn't He have said so plainly? Instead He teaches us the correct spirit for us to take. It is wrong for me to do so because it takes away from my spouse. It is selfishness. But for the person who does it because their spouse no longer can, who is being hurt by his/her doing so? It keeps the marriage together, keeps from involving others in our marriages (sexually) and somewhat lessens the pain/guilt that the unable spouse must feel. Or at least I would think it would. It would be the selfish thing to get divorced and/or take a lover. Or to go completely without and get yourself all stressed out creating anger and resentment that will undoubtedly affect the unable spouse. I just would like to see where in the bible it says that the act itself is against God. I'm not saying that it doesn't say so, I'm always missing stuff or not getting it in the Bible, but I haven't seen anything yet to convince me that masturbation is a sin in itself. Part of Archives. http://www.raw-psych.com/bio.html By topper “ I was about 12 ...when everyone left the home I took off my pants and held my penis real tight and began to "pull it", as they say. Wow! it kind of scared me but felt terribly good. I felt I was a mortal sinner after I came and had to confess...unfortunately, this began a serious disturbance in my conscience as a Catholic altar boy...I so much wish in retrospect I had had a therapist or older male to help me sort out my feelings and not condemn myself.” One of the most wonderful gifts God has given us freely is sexual enjoyment. Just like rain and sunshine he give gifts to all people freely. With anti-masturbation teaching you try to take this gift away from people. You are trying to call God’s wonderful gift a curse and call it evil, when it is God designed and He said it is very good. (Eph 4:22-24 KJV) That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts; {23} And be renewed in the spirit of your mind; {24} And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness. ***Inkaboutit reply***Nothing to do with masturbation. YOU MUST REPLACE THEM WITH GODLY THINGS. ***Inkaboutit reply***God designed and invented sexual lust, sex play and masturbation and solo sex. >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> 3. Realize you are not alone in this struggle ***Inkaboutit reply***Over 94% all male survey admit of masturbation. Or 100% normal males, the other 6% are very adnormal. >>>>Ken Matto said>>>>> (2 Cor 10:4-5 KJV) (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) {5} Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ; ***Inkaboutit reply***Totally taken out of context. NOThing to do with sex or masturbation or sexual fantasies or sexual lust at all. Compare to the NIV. It about the Doctrine on Jesus himself. Liberated Christian view of Pro-Sexuality and the Bible. God is not against sex, He created it and said it was very good. Christianity and sex. History of sexuality and Christianity. The proper context of sex in the Bible. Research on sexuality. Masturbation is a gift of God. Sex is a gift of God to us. Sexual lust is not evil lust, it is God designed human nature. Evil lust is hurtful and harmful to humans. Masturbation is healthy. Masturbation is good. Masturbation is God designed. Masturbation is good for you. Masturbation is for everyone to enjoy. Is Masturbation a sin? Clearly NOT!!! It is clearly not a sin in the Bible!! http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/masturbationnotsinlev1516.html Major research on masturbation, the Bible, Christianity, sexuality, to clearly show that masturbation is a wonderful gift from God for us to enjoy. God designed every detail for us to enjoy. http://christianmasturbation.homestead.com/index.html Letter To Anti-masturbation teachers. I can clearly show you that with your anti-masturbation teaching that you are harming and hurting God, others, and yourself. http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/masturbationlettertoanti.html Major contradiction-- verse used by anti-nudist people. Matt. 5:28 is totally misunderstood and taken out of context. "look at a women with lust...adultery" http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/Lustmt528.html Masturbation positive talk: many Christian people, Ministers, College Professors, Bible teachers, saying masturbation is not a sin and is very healthy for you. http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/highlight2.html 205 Arguments in Support of Naturism (being nude), Also The Bible supports naturism. Many Christians also are nudist. Breaking the Shame barriers. The Bible and nudity. Lust and nudity? Christianity and nudity. (Many links) http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/nature.html The Cause for a great deal of the sexual negativity in our culture. When did sex became bad? http://thinkaboutit.homestead.com/gnotic.html The Hidden Effects of Sexual Guilt. Many clergymen now admit that the church's attitude toward sex over the years has not only be out of line with scriptural intent, but it has proven harmful. http://www.theinternetcollege.com/sing7.htm Who, when, and How Sex Was Made A Sin?? http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/madesin.html The false Gnostic ideal that sex was a sin or evil was forced into the Christian thinking and is kept there by taking the Bible verses out of context. http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/gnosticlie.html A man was NOT considered an adulterer** if he engaged in sexual relations with....... Sex with Mutual consent of spouse.... Also when letting another man have sex with his wives and concubines. http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/adultdefine.html



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