Masturbation is a gift of God. Sex is a gift of God to us. Sexual lust is not evil lust, it is God designed human nature. Evil lust is hurtful and harmful to humans. Masturbation is healthy. Masturbation is good. Masturbation is God designed. Masturbation is good for you. Masturbation is for everyone to enjoy.
http://inkaboutit.homestead.com/index6.html1290 Masturbation and lust From: Paul Subject: ~ An oldie but a goody
Alise wrote:
So, what? We tell the young people, "Just stop thinking about it! Shut down your sexual feelings! Repress, repress, repress!" Then on their wedding night, when they haven't been allowed to feel sexual feelings for 9 years (and that's being conservative -- I'd say a lot of kids begin to have sexual feelings pretty young and don't get married until they're well into their twenties, Christians and non-Christians alike!), we tell them, "Give yourself completely to your spouse! How dare you not be in the mood? You don't own your body, she does! Be seductive! Be sexy! Be a great lover!"
Hi Alise,
You know your standing on my soap box, don't you? ;) I calculate the average number of years between reproductive maturity (able to procreate, which is well after the sex drive kicks in) to first marriage. It's something like 13 years, and it's on the rise since puberty is occurring earlier and earlier while the age of first marriage is on the rise. Obviously it's a problem, and obviously it's going to get worse. The world has acknowledged it by preaching safe sex; it's not the best plan in my book, but at least they are dealing with reality. The church on the other hand seems to think it will go away if we ignore it. Obviously we can't say "Cross your legs and ignore it" for a decade plus and then expect a healthy sex life to magically happen after the marriage. Most will not succeed in repressing all sexuality, and with everything (including masturbation) being called wrong, they will easily fall into sexual sin. Those who do manage to repress completely will be like Alise suggest when she said:
People with eating disorders have to make a decision not to eat. And it's a very difficult thing to overcome once you've made that decision. Why do we expect something different for sex? Why do we tell teens to repress every sexual urge and then wonder why they have problems in that one area of their marriage 10 years later? We wouldn't expect an anorexic girl to one day just start eating -- why expect someone who has been starved from sex for YEARS to suddenly have an appetite for it?
A lot of sincere young Christians get to the point of having guilt for every sexual thought, feeling or urge. I think it works like a form of conditioning, not unlike Pavlov's dogs. So when they get married they know they should feel free and enjoy, but that guilt over sex conditioning keeps them from it, or causes them to feel condemned when they do.
There has got to be a better way! Either we marry them all off at 14 or we acknowledge they have a very strong, God given, sex drive, that was designed to be virtually impossible to ignore.
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