Sexual lust, fantasies are not evil. They are a very important part of God's sexual designed.

Warning: If you are offended about a little detailed talk about masturbation and how to, then do not read this web page. This web page is about How a Christian man can Masturbate sin-free, lust-free, Guilt-free.

This is learned by many at puberty. The first time that I masturbated I had a big erection and a very strong itch at the "neck" of my penis and had to itch it badly, by rubbing it and it felt very enjoyable, so I continued to rub. The more I rubbed the more it felt good, the more fun it was. Then all of a sudden something came out and I was surprised. I didn't even know what it was. All I was trying to do was rub a strong itch. I never gave one thought of sexuality or girls or porno. I just had an itch. Is it a sin to rub an itch? The next night I did the same thing and very often after that, just because it felt so good to massage my penis.

How to? In your private, quiet bedroom, laying on top of the bed with all you cloths off, get the proper lubrication needed, and without any porno, without any thought of any women, without the thought of sexual intercourse, Think of only one thing , the enjoyment of a penis massage. Same thoughts as a neck/shoulder massage. Using lots of lubrication, then start the penis massage. Take your time, you are not in a rush, relax and enjoy. No rush, just enjoy each stroke, go slow, at first and change speeds as desired, don't rush. When your hand gets tried, stop and rest your hand for a short while. After a short rest, continue on with the massage enjoyment. Rest, continue, rest continue, don't get impatience. All the time, just, focus on the massage pleasure, nothing else. At some point you will ejaculate, just like an innocent child does the first time. After a 10 minutes rest, and you want to enjoy more just continue as before. Continue as long as you would like, this is a lot better then TV. After you have completely and totally emptied yourself and you are exhausted, then rest a while, and you are ready to conquer the world.

"Make believe" something you considered not to be a sin. For example: pretend that your semen is very valuable to the world to cure a deadly disease and you need to "milk "yourself regularly to help save the world out of its crisis situation. Is "Make believe" that you are saving the world, a sin? Or is that a good thought?

How can they use these lust verses only against masturbation and say lust is ok in marriage, but not in masturbation. Masturbation, wet dreams, and marriage sexual intercourse are treated the same in the OT, not separate. As far as unclean penalty, a women's period has a more severe penalty then masturbation, wet dreams, and marriage intercourse. So if you say masturbation is "unclean" or a sin , then, you have to say sex in marriage, wet dreams, and a women's period is also "unclean" and a sin. Most would not say these are a sin.

"Make believe" is very common in every persons' life and most all people accepts "make believe" as being normal and healthy, but when it comes to sexual "make believe", then they think it is some kind of sin. Why?

Remember God designed sexuality and built in to us certain desires. If sex is "dirty" or "sinful" to you, then, you must spend a lot of time tormenting yourself over sexuality.

1 Corinthians 7:9

But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

There are two types of "burning with passion" sexual passions that people have. The passion or craving to get the sexual stress tension release, caused by the continuous build up of sexual fluids inside the man's body on an on going bases. Both masturbation and sexual intercourse can solve this need.

The Second burning passion is the craving to have that human touch of another person, and that "one flesh" closeness, skin to skin contact, the closest a man can get to a women and shared as lovers, that only sexual intercourse can give. I feel this second passion is what Paul was talking about in 1 Corinthians 7:9.

Sometimes a man is in excessive, sexual starvation, and great need of getting that sexual stress tension release that it causes him to be out of control and demand a women to meet that need without having that one flesh closeness of body, soul, and spirit. Women sometimes just feel like she has just been used as a sex object and not a lover, just so the man can only get sexual stress tension release, that he could have lessen the tension by masturbating to bring his sex drive under control so he could then have the patience's to take the time needed to develop that oneness of body , soul and spirit that his wife is look for and needs. By hugs, talking, sharing feels, understand her, and just take the time to be with her. Its hard for a raging bull full of sexual stress tension with full load of sexual fluids to be loving and patience. Then the sexual intercourse is desired and wanted by the women and she feels the love and oneness of mind and hearts and body. She then feels loved as a person and not just as a sex object.

Regular Masturbation has helped me to be a better Christian. It Has helped me to stay a virgin before marriage at age 27 and has greatly helped me to stay sexually faithful to my wife for over 20 years of marriage. Without regularly masturbation I would have failed many times and probably been divorced a long time ago. I have been offered sex by beautiful women a number of times, both when I was single and during marriage and have been able to turn them down with God's help and regular masturbation to control my very strong sex drive.

Because of God help and masturbation, I was able to completed more of the 12 steps needed to have a close intimacy bonding with my wife during dating, that created a very strong bond before marriage, without having sexual intercourse. Regular masturbation permits a high sex drive person to be under control and not out of control and meet one of the burning passions of the need for sexual stress tension release.

This same Christian counselor also said that 95% of the young men that he questioned who claimed to be Christian who admitted to masturbation did not participate in pre-marital sex.